It's one of those things you try to ignore, because believing it is true is too hard.
Comments like "monkey" talking about black sports players. Hints and tips here and there that someone "in your circle" might actually be racist. A real, hate-mongering racist.
Because of their stance in your life there's not a whole lot you say or do.
Until they say words like "Nigger" and "Spics" and "A-Rabs" (emphasis on the "A").
It actually makes you feel like you're in the twilight zone when it hits you that this person might actually be a racist. And then, they just declare it. They just out and out say: "I'm a racist."
And...wait, what?! Did that just happen?
And it did...
So, all you can do is leave.
There's no arguing with ignorance.
You strap on your strength to not try and fight with ignorance and you leave.
And then you're eternally sad.
Sad for the influence this person has on people in your life.
Sad for this person for being so smart and so ignorant.
Sad over the worry they might teach hate and racism to a future generation.
And you realize, sadly that your relationship with several people just changed forever.
There's no time for ignorance and hate today. There just isn't.