Resolution

From the first Definition from Merriam-Webster's Dictionary Online.

resolution

Main Entry: res·o·lu·tion
Pronunciation: \ˌre-zə-ˈlü-shən\
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English resolucioun, from Anglo-French or Latin; Anglo-French resolucion, from Latin resolution-, resolutio, from resolvere
Date: 14th century
1: the act or process of resolving: as a: the act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones b: the act of answering : solving c: the act of determining

***So...who's in?
Making a New Year's Resolution?

Not me; I think they just about set you up for failure. Why wait until 01/01/09 to resolve to change/make better/to resolve issues? If you're aware of a problem or something that needs to be addressed why not just go for it instead of waiting?

I understand - new year, new life, new resolve; it all goes so well together.
How about...next year, when you discover something you want/need to change you just go for it? Start a "new year" for yourself on your own terms (with your own date! give yourself a reason to celebrate a year from some random date in March or June or August or whenever...): especially when you're talking about things like your health (smoking, drinking), the health of the planet (recycling, reducing waste, eating organic foods), the well-being of others (donate time and money now!) etc. - can those things really wait? Aren't you just cheating yourself and others by putting this off?

Yes, Virginia...

Eight-year-old Virginia O'Hanlon wrote a letter to the editor of New York's Sun, and the quick response was printed as an unsigned editorial Sept. 21, 1897. The work of veteran newsman Francis Pharcellus Church has since become history's most reprinted newspaper editorial, appearing in part or whole in dozens of languages in books, movies, and other editorials, and on posters and stamps.

"DEAR EDITOR: I am 8 years old. "Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus. "Papa says, 'If you see it in THE SUN it's so.' "Please tell me the truth; is there a Santa Claus?
"VIRGINIA O'HANLON."115 WEST NINETY-FIFTH STREET."

VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong.
They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except [what] they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy.

Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus. It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.
Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus.

The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.

You may tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond.

Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding. No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.

Quote for Today

I don't believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive.

Joseph Campbell

Ansel Adams Quote

“It is horrifying that we have to fight our own government to save the environment.”

Giving

Those of you who know me know that I am not a religious person (by any stretch...I think growing up going to a catholic school ruined that forever...) but that I am a very spiritual person and that I am quite a giving person as well.
I have been told that I am "altruistic" (and think in a lot of ways I am [see - it's just not all the time and really so many people make me crazy I just can't actually wear that title completely!]). There have been times/circumstances where I've given more than I should have, have helped to the point of "hurting" myself (financially [i.e. taking loans out to give people money {which I have done several times...}]). Etc.

Below is a copy of an email (slightly edited) I sent to my friends and family: please read:

"Most of you know my family and I starting to STOP buying gifts for each other (less my sisters' kids) years ago: just wasn't worth it to exchange candles, sweaters, pocket knives etc.

I am a firm believer Christmas (as far as gift exchange) is for kids. I am (effective now-ish) opting out of exchanging gifts with adults!

I want to be clear that I love and appreciate all of you: truly. But as I look around the world and see things I wish didn't exist I am drawn to give where it is truly needed.

Some of you want; I know this. I do too; thing is, neither I, 'nor any of you that I am emailing need as much as those I am choosing to give to. It's quite simply: just that simple.

My own personal belief is that as far as adults go: Christmas is for dinners, coffees, pizza and movies, hanging out: just being together: your gift to me is your time and mine to you is my time (god: hope it's worth it!)!

I have already embarked on endeavors of putting funds that might have been allocated to all of you (gulp!) into funds that I am allocating to needy families (as designated by the reverend who supports the hot meal group I volunteer with [NO - i am NOT becoming religious .our group just happens to do our meal at a church and…at least there’s a good way to find/help deserving people...]).

I hope you don't mind. If you do - come volunteer with me once and you won't mind anymore.

I want to maintain certain traditions: dinners, pizza and movies, fall-down-stupid-drunk-night (duh!) etc... thing is: I appreciate you and your time much more than the gifts you might present to me.

If you're wondering what to do with the $5, $10, $15 etc. you might have spent on me for Christmas: please ask: we'll choose a charity together!

Thank you all for your attention here.
Thank you all for your understanding and do: email, call, question me should you have any qualms, concerns, or wants for information!

Happy Holidays!
I hope they find you fed, warm and surrounded by love!
Leah"

I just wanted to share it with all of you.
Sometimes I think it is just so easy to forget about those in need when we're busy with our own hustle and bustle.

Times are tough: really tough: I know.
Most of us are lucky if we still have jobs (my company actually still gave out nice bonuses: the staff got 10% more than they did last year - hello?? that's luck!) but no matter how tough they are for you and yours - someone (I guarantee it) has it tougher.

It's not a contest - to see who is worse off, it's just a reminder that when you walk by the Salvation Army buckets, or see giving trees at local stores or coffee shops etc. - give: please.

The thing about giving: it's not selfless (anyone see that old episode of 'Friends'? ha!). You feel so good and every time you reflect on your giving you feel good.

I just donated about 20% of my net bonus check in grocery store gift certificates and in the form of gifts bought to 5 families in need. One on the verge of losing their house, two with extensive medical bills and lack of funds due to not being able to work - and frankly I forget why the rest were in need; it doesn't matter. I wanted to run into the lounge and yell at the top of my lungs when I delivered my donations (and I wanted to do more and more and more; and I still may!)! I still feel like a million bucks if I think about it right now!

Now...I am not a rich person: by any means. I still have a car payment, student loans, a personal loan: you know: debt. I don't have thousands in the bank (by any stretch). But I know at Christmas I normally spend $500 - $750 (remember: I get a bonus to help me do it!) and to be able to give so much of it away - in the name of my friends and family who are gracious enough to accept gifts of donations being made in their honor as Christmas gifts...well damn it's a good feeling!

Try It!
You needn't go to the extreme I did: instead of a single in the Salvation Army bucket - stick a five in there. Instead of sleeping in on Christmas Day - go to a local shelter, church etc. and serve a meal; open your gifts when you get home: they'll take on a whole new meaning. You don't have to have extra cash - you can donate your time (also a very valuable commodity these days!) - once, twice or regularly.

Here's the bottom line: if you're reading this chances are you have a roof over your head, your heat is on (even if there's plastic on the windows and you're still cold!) and there's food (even if it's not everything you want it to be) in your 'fridge. Aren't you lucky?

We're not in this world alone and no one got to where they are by themselves...
Pay it forward; do something.

Quote for Today

Enlightenment is for sissies.
Living ethically and morally is what really matters.
-Brad Warner

Reasons to go Vegetarian (go vegan!)

From VegetarianTimes.com (I added the "vegan" part...)

People are drawn to vegetarianism by all sorts of motives. Some of us want to live longer, healthier lives or do our part to reduce pollution. Others have made the switch because we want to preserve Earth’s natural resources or because we’ve always loved animals and are ethically opposed to eating them.
Thanks to an abundance of scientific research that demonstrates the health and environmental benefits of a plant-based diet, even the federal government recommends that we consume most of our calories from grain products, vegetables and fruits. And no wonder: An estimated 70 percent of all diseases, including one-third of all cancers, are related to diet. A vegetarian diet reduces the risk for chronic degenerative diseases such as obesity, coronary artery disease, high blood pressure, diabetes and certain types of cancer including colon, breast, prostate, stomach, lung and esophageal cancer.
Why go veg? Chew on these reasons:

You’ll ward off disease.
Vegetarian diets are more healthful than the average American diet, particularly in preventing, treating or reversing heart disease and reducing the risk of cancer. A low-fat vegetarian diet is the single most effective way to stop the progression of coronary artery disease or prevent it entirely. Cardiovascular disease kills 1 million Americans annually and is the leading cause of death in the United States. But the mortality rate for cardiovascular disease is lower in vegetarians than in nonvegetarians, says Joel Fuhrman, MD, author of Eat to Live: The Revolutionary Formula for Fast and Sustained Weight Loss. A vegetarian diet is inherently healthful because vegetarians consume no animal fat and less cholesterol and instead consume more fiber and more antioxidant-rich produce—another great reason to listen to Mom and eat your veggies!

You’ll keep your weight down.
The standard American diet—high in saturated fats and processed foods and low in plant-based foods and complex carbohydrates—is making us fat and killing us slowly. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and a division of the CDC, the National Center for Health Statistics, 64 percent of adults and 15 percent of children aged 6 to 19 are overweight and are at risk of weight-related ailments including heart disease, stroke and diabetes. A study conducted from 1986 to 1992 by Dean Ornish, MD, president and director of the Preventive Medicine Research Institute in Sausalito, California, found that overweight people who followed a low-fat, vegetarian diet lost an average of 24 pounds in the first year and kept off that weight 5 years later. They lost the weight without counting calories or carbs and without measuring portions or feeling hungry.

You’ll live longer.
If you switch from the standard American diet to a vegetarian diet, you can add about 13 healthy years to your life, says Michael F. Roizen, MD, author of The RealAge Diet: Make Yourself Younger with What You Eat. “People who consume saturated, four-legged fat have a shorter life span and more disability at the end of their lives. Animal products clog your arteries, zap your energy and slow down your immune system. Meat eaters also experience accelerated cognitive and sexual dysfunction at a younger age.”

Want more proof of longevity?
Residents of Okinawa, Japan, have the longest life expectancy of any Japanese and likely the longest life expectancy of anyone in the world, according to a 30-year study of more than 600 Okinawan centenarians. Their secret: a low-calorie diet of unrefined complex carbohydrates, fiber-rich fruits and vegetables, and soy.

You’ll build strong bones.
When there isn’t enough calcium in the bloodstream, our bodies will leach it from existing bone. The metabolic result is that our skeletons will become porous and lose strength over time. Most health care practitioners recommend that we increase our intake of calcium the way nature intended— through foods. Foods also supply other nutrients such as phosphorus, magnesium and vitamin D that are necessary for the body to absorb and use calcium.
People who are mildly lactose-intolerant can often enjoy small amounts of dairy products such as yogurt, cheese and lactose-free milk. But if you avoid dairy altogether, you can still get a healthful dose of calcium from dry beans, tofu, soymilk and dark green vegetables such as broccoli, kale, collards and turnip greens.

You’ll reduce your risk of food-borne illnesses.
The CDC reports that food-borne illnesses of all kinds account for 76 million illnesses a year, resulting in 325,000 hospitalizations and 5,000 deaths in the United States. According to the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA), foods rich in protein such as meat, poultry, fish and seafood are frequently involved in food-borne illness outbreaks.

You’ll ease the symptoms of menopause.
Many foods contain nutrients beneficial to perimenopausal and menopausal women. Certain foods are rich in phytoestrogens, the plant-based chemical compounds that mimic the behavior of estrogen. Since phytoestrogens can increase and decrease estrogen and progesterone levels, maintaining a balance of them in your diet helps ensure a more comfortable passage through menopause. Soy is by far the most abundant natural source of phytoestrogens, but these compounds also can be found in hundreds of other foods such as apples, beets, cherries, dates, garlic, olives, plums, raspberries, squash and yams. Because menopause is also associated with weight gain and a slowed metabolism, a low-fat, high-fiber vegetarian diet can help ward off extra pounds.

You’ll have more energy.
Good nutrition generates more usable energy—energy to keep pace with the kids, tackle that home improvement project or have better sex more often, Michael F. Roizen, MD, says in The RealAge Diet. Too much fat in your bloodstream means that arteries won’t open properly and that your muscles won’t get enough oxygen. The result? You feel zapped. Balanced vegetarian diets are naturally free of cholesterol-laden, artery-clogging animal products that physically slow us down and keep us hitting the snooze button morning after morning. And because whole grains, legumes, fruits and vegetables are so high in complex carbohydrates, they supply the body with plenty of energizing fuel.

You’ll be more “regular.”
Eating a lot of vegetables necessarily means consuming more fiber, which pushes waste out of the body. Meat contains no fiber. People who eat lower on the food chain tend to have fewer instances of constipation, hemorrhoids and diverticulitis.

You’ll help reduce pollution.
Some people become vegetarians after realizing the devastation that the meat industry is having on the environment. According to the US Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), chemical and animal waste runoff from factory farms is responsible for more than 173,000 miles of polluted rivers and streams. Runoff from farmlands is one of the greatest threats to water quality today. Agricultural activities that cause pollution include confined animal facilities, plowing, pesticide spraying, irrigation, fertilizing and harvesting.

You’ll avoid toxic chemicals.
The EPA estimates that nearly 95 percent of the pesticide residue in the typical American diet comes from meat, fish and dairy products. Fish, in particular, contain carcinogens (PCBs, DDT) and heavy metals (mercury, arsenic, lead, cadmium) that can’t be removed through cooking or freezing. Meat and dairy products can also be laced with steroids and hormones, so be sure to read the labels on the dairy products you purchase.

You’ll help reduce famine.
About 70 percent of all grain produced in the United States is fed to animals raised for slaughter. The 7 billion livestock animals in the United States consume five times as much grain as is consumed directly by the American population. “If all the grain currently fed to livestock were consumed directly by people, the number of people who could be fed would be nearly 800 million,” says David Pimentel, professor of ecology at Cornell University. If the grain were exported, it would boost the US trade balance by $80 billion a year.

You’ll spare animals.
Many vegetarians give up meat because of their concern for animals. Ten billion animals are slaughtered for human consumption each year. And, unlike the farms of yesteryear where animals roamed freely, today most animals are factory farmed—crammed into cages where they can barely move and fed a diet tainted with pesticides and antibiotics. These animals spend their entire lives in crates or stalls so small that they can’t even turn around. Farmed animals are not protected from cruelty under the law—in fact, the majority of state anticruelty laws specifically exempt farm animals from basic humane protection.

You’ll save money.
Meat accounts for 10 percent of Americans’ food spending. Eating vegetables, grains and fruits in place of the 200 pounds of beef, chicken and fish each nonvegetarian eats annually would cut individual food bills by an average of $4,000 a year.

Your dinner plate will be full of color.
Disease-fighting phytochemicals give fruits and vegetables their rich, varied hues. They come in two main classes: carotenoids and anthocyanins. All rich yellow and orange fruits and vegetables—carrots, oranges, sweet potatoes, mangoes, pumpkins, corn—­owe their color to carotenoids. Leafy green vegetables also are rich in carotenoids but get their green color from chlorophyll. Red, blue and purple fruits and vegetables—plums, cherries, red bell peppers—contain anthocyanins. Cooking by color is a good way to ensure you’re eating a variety of naturally occurring substances that boost immunity and prevent a range of illnesses.

It’s a breeze.
It’s almost effortless these days to find great-tasting and good-for-you vegetarian foods, whether you’re strolling the aisles of your local supermarket or walking down the street at lunchtime. If you need inspiration in the kitchen, look no further than the Internet, your favorite bookseller or your local vegetarian society’s newsletter for culinary tips and great recipes. And if you’re eating out, almost any ethnic restaurant will offer vegetarian selections. In a hurry? Most fast food and fast casual restaurants now include healthful and inventive salads, sandwiches and entrées on their menus. So rather than asking yourself why go vegetarian, the real question is: Why haven’t you gone vegetarian?

Holidays: Spending

And so it begins (or not according to recent reports by economists!) - holiday shopping.

I know too many folks out there who will break the bank, charge the heck out of their cards, try to sell things etc. all to pay for their holidays to be: just so.

Don't succumb to the pressure! The pressure comes from no one other than you when you really think about it; especially when you're trying to please family and (especially little) kids. I will be forever perturbed by folks who genuinley don't have money and will go out and spend a whole bunch of it buying lots and lots of stuff for little kids!

Lets think about it folks: little kids don't "get" what Christmas is (most of the time their expectations are what you present to them...until they get into school) and so the difference between 2 gifts and 20 is lost on them: and how many pictures do you see of the kids in the box that housed the gift you probably couldn't afford anyway (instead of playing with it)? And kids go through toys and clothes like nobody's business; lets remember that too!

I'm not a religious person (by any stretch) but even I believe in enjoying the season - my reason is family, friends, a good dinner (potluck or otherwise [for Thanksgiving I am continuing a tradition with one of my best friends - dinner at my apartment, I'm buying most of the food {we'll cook it together}, she's bringing booze and the movies: we'll just hang out all day: it's great!]), watching kids open a gift or two, movie and a pizza with friends: all fairly easy to obtain: even on a tight budget!

I'm just saying: let's not overdue it with things that within days, weeks or months go by the wayside. The only Christmas gift I still have from childhood is the wooden name my dad carved and stained (for each of us) in 1983 when funds were particularly low. I couldn't remember what else I got for most of my other Christmases if you paid me...

Holidays

Ah...yes! They are upon us!
A time for family, friends, big meals, presents, hanging out: love, laughter, happiness.

Don't forget to really spread it.
I wonder how the people who just came to the hot meal I volunteered for this past Saturday will "celebrate". I wonder if they'll be warm, fed, have a present to give their kids (we had three kids at the meal Saturday).

My family stopped exchanging gifts (less the gifts we buy for my sisters' kids) years and years ago: we realized we were doing nothing more than exchanging candles and sweaters and pocket knives etc. I buy for my friends' kids - they're kids: need to keep the magic alive as long as possible but I no longer really exchange with friends. If I or they want/need (same goes with my family) a new sweater or a candle etc. we'll - we go out and get 'em ourselves! Keeps us from having to make returns/exchanges too!

For a of couple years my family all pitched in to "adopt" a famly for the holidays. Food for meals and gifts for the kids. We stopped a couple years ago - chaos with pregnancies, moves, a death in the family has prevented the conversation the last year or so; I'm going to inquire again - and at least do something on my own (which I have done every year that we didn't do something as a family).

What can you do?
Look around you - who is in your circle?
One year I gave a family I'm friends with a couple hundred bucks to buy gifts for their kids and maybe have a nice meal (they struggle: struggle, struggle, struggle).

Do something. Give someone else a little "magic" for the holidays.

I was born and raised catholic and now (and since i was about 11 years old) organized religion mortifies me so...I don't believe the whole "jesus is the reason for the season" stuff. I do believe that there is something about the season though - it's nearly tangible.

I also know how good it feels to help others, to make others feel good - and to give.

Think about it: what can you do to make the holidays better for someone?

An Historic Time

Indeed!
Anyone who knows me knows that I was and am a "Hilary" girl: loved her, love her - can't wait for her turn...

I have not been excited about Obama for president. For me he was (of course) better than McCain and he had Biden on his ticket (my favorite person of anyone on the tickets). I think Obama is ok. I think he'll do well as president. I think this being an historic time is more important to me.

I am amazed and so proud of our country for having elected an African American as president. I thought for certain the first real African American presidential candidate would have been Colin Powell (ok - he screwed that all up speaking to the UN about Iraq and WMD [when most of the world thought he knew better and just didn't speak up/stand his ground and not speak...]) - I actually really like him. He too is impressive - not just because he's a black man and has become so successful but because of where he's come from, his fight, his endurance, intelligence etc. - simply because of the man he is.

That being said...

To me the fact that race was an issue or a topic of discussion (ever) in 2008 was of great disappointment to me: aren't we over it yet? Will we ever be?
Here's a link to Obama's great 'Race' speech. If you haven't heard it - it's great and worthy of a watch. It's about 38 minutes long...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWe7wTVbLUU

So: here's to hope, change, a new day for all us. We need this. My fear is this (and it would have been the same no matter who became president) - things are so bad, so bad now that if they don't get better under a new administration: well...it was so bad...too bad to change. Or the flip side: because things are so bad even small improvements (that might have come/happened anyway) will raise this man to hero status.

It's a thin line.
Let's hope for the latter:
I'd rather have a hero than a failure.

Quote for Today

There is no coming to consciousness without pain.
Carl Gustav Jung

Music

I love music - all kinds (ok; not all kinds [no country, rap, classical, r&b, hip hop, "soft rock" {a.k.a. "elevator"}]).

Just discovered:

http://www.pandora.com/

so cool! Enter an artist or music title and they make a "station" of like music for you!
They tell you the artist/title/album the music comes from!

Blue

Has always been my favorite color/set of hues...
SO glad Ohio is blue now too...

Super Foods

"Super Foods"

1. Sweet potatoes: Rich in vitamins C, beta carotene, fiber, potassium, and iron, this root veggie is one of the few foods that supply fat-soluble vitamin E without a lot of fat and calories.

2. Garlic: One clove contains as many as 15 antioxidants. Compounds in garlic may have antibiotic and decongestant properties as well. And research shows it can help lower blood pressure, boost immunity, reduce blood clotting, and prevent some types of cancer.

3. Brown rice: One cup contains more than 20% of the recommended daily value for magnesium and selenium. And brown rice is higher in fiber than white rice.

4. Citrus fruits: These vitamin C-rich treats may help protect against cancer and help boost immune system function. And the folate found in citrus fruits may help reduce the risk of heart disease.

5. Strawberry: These berries are not only full of vitamin C, potassium, and dietary fiber, but they also are high in pectin, which can help reduce cholesterol levels and risk of hypertension.

6. Cantaloupe: One cup provides 125% of the daily value for vitamin C and more than 50% of the vitamin A daily value. Also, melon may protect against cancers of the colon and rectum.

7. Tomatoes: Eat your tomatoes with a bit of healthy fat to help your body better absorb the heart-healthy lycopene in these fruits.

8. Spinach: This leafy green contains vitamin C and E, folic acid, protein, calcium, and beta carotene, and may help protect against cancer.

9. Onions: Certain compounds in onions help clear your sinuses. This veggie also may help control high cholesterol and prevent heart attacks and some cancers, including stomach, rectal, and colon.

10. Soy: This legume contains iron, calcium, magnesium, and fiber; you can get it in the form of soybeans, soymilk, tofu, or tempura.

11. Beans: Beans and legumes contain protein, folic acid, and fiber, all of which may help lower cholesterol and the risk of cancer.

12. Carrot: This root veggie is full of beta-carotene and fiber; may help prevent cancer and reduce the risk of heart attack; and also may lower cholesterol levels.

13. Oatmeal: Slow-cooking oatmeal has more fiber than instant and will give you a dose of iron, copper, folic acid, vitamin E, and zinc.

Political Signs

Are everywhere - and most years they stay right wherethey are until the wind takes them - someone snags some of the signs for the politician they're not voting for and they toss 'em somewhere along their way.

I say that every sign left after the Friday after the elections (in public places like along the highways etc.) equal some sort of penalty/fine for the person/bill etc. they represent and that those parties' representativies etc. could also be fined.

Bottom line - clean 'em up.

Cat in a Basket

That's Rebound! Well - his ears anyway!
I am not having any profound thoughts (that I'm willing to share at this time!) so I thought I'd put up this so cute picture of one of my rescue kitties. I got Rebound when I was volunteering for the Berea Animal Rescue Fund in Berea, Ohio (http://www.bereaanimalrescue.com/) as their healthcare coordinator. Rebound came after (educated guess by the veterinarian after someone saw him by their car right after they started it up) being caught on a car engine. His neck and hind legs were ripped up pretty bad.
I babied him because he was such a sweety - surgery after surgery, days of pills, bandage changings - he took it all so well.
I went to take the casts off his little legs; he was laying in a large cage and put his little paws on my shoulder as I cut away. I knew then I had to take him home - and add him to my then compliment of three (yes - he was #4) cats!
It was a rough go but so worth it - still one of the sweetest cats ever (and a cat that sheds more than any other cat I have ever met!).

Quote for Today

Live so that your friends can defend you but never have to.
Arnold H Glasow

Liars, Liars: Pants on Fire!

Politicians suck.
Well - their campaigning sucks.

I know I am not alone in my frustration - my ultimate frustration in this (and every) campaign.

What is so hard about telling the truth?
If your truth stinks for some and is better for others and is great for a few: say it.
If an issue is going to create jobs - say it. If it's not; don't lie.
If an issue is really going to ammend a states' constitution to the downfall of its' citizens: they should know.

I am SO sick of campaign commercials (not just presidential) that all show "official" copies of the constituion, of voting histories, of attendance records - and so forth and so on.

How is the average person supposed to make sense of it all?
No one has the time to appropriately research each and every aspect of a politican, of a bill etc.

I hate that it is legal to spin!
Politicans should have to tell the truth: without spinning.

The thing is - political campaigns rest on their laurels a lot because we as a voting population are frankly: really, really ignorant - they count on it and totally take advantage: look at who has been in the white house for the past 8 years...need I say more?

I know I've said it before: educate yourself. Don't believe any: commercials, ads, pamphlets, campaigners. Do your own research, don't be afraid to ask questions.

Without questioning we would never advance.

Quote for Today

Beware of little expenses.
A small leak will sink a great ship.
Benjamin Franklin

Economy/Politics

So - something's got to give, right?

Even my poor little IRA account has been hit - hard!
I have had the unfortunate need over the past several years to withdraw from my IRA (bad girl, bad girl!) - but it was needed - school, debt, etc. but I have not had to withdraw any funds since March '07. I have been happy to watch my little fund grow and grow.
I contribute more than the 3% match my employer offers; I nearly always have - it just makes sense.

I got my email tonight that my quarterly statement was available and all my funds values have decreased - significantly!

I'm 32 and am comfortable leaving my IRA alone and hoping that over the course of time it will grow, grow, grow. I won't contribute less, I won't withdraw the money and hide it under my mattress (though seeing a loss SUCKS and makes me want to).

That's me.

What about you? What about your family and friends?
How's your retirement?

How's your checking account? How about savings - do you even have one?

Something's got to give...
Will the "bailout" help - sure. Would we survive without it? Yes.

My message today:
be aware!
don't be one of these citizens that sits back uneducated, hoping, praying, wishing, keeping your fingers crossed etc.
VOTE (for one)
I'm a prime example of the citizen who knows a bit more about politics and their goings on than many others. I feel like I have to - as infuriating as it is.

I'm listening to the Biden-Palin debate right now.
Herein lies my favorite of all four candidates: Biden.
To me both tickets really leave something to be desired. I was a Hillary gal (still am!) through and through but Biden is the least scary, most intelligent of all of them - doesn't (by any means) make him an ideal candidate but...

Be involved
GET EDUCATED (for two)
who are you voting for and why?
running a party line? worth it?

Lastly
DON'T BE SCARED!
to speak, to debate (without arguing and viciousness) - that's how we learn!

Frankly we all need to be involved and to be educated.
Are you?

Health

Overall - can you beat it? I mean - when you have it and it's good?
Everyone who knows me knows that I strive to be as healthy as possible and that I enjoy it. I work out in a structured class 2x/week, do Pilates 1x/week - am vegetarian and nearly always vegan (striving to reach that 100% vegan goal - learning a little more as I go...), walk or ride my bike or hit the gym on my days off from my classes. I feel inherently abnormal when I don't get in some sort of exercise and I have always been like this.

I am obsessed with 'The Biggest Loser' - really! I never miss an episode...and for those of you who know me - t.v. is really not high on my list of things to do/care about (I'm mostly against t.v., video games, computer games etc. I firmly believe it rots the brain). But I can't get enough of this program!

I am perplexed by the state people allow themselves to get to and live in. My mother is morbidly obese - she may very well be the reason that I (and my sisters) refuse to allow weight to hamper our lives. She's tired: all the time, has bad knees, back pain - and for the life of me - I cannot figure out why she's not yet diabetic (thank god she's not, right?). She's also a nurse: go figure.

There are SO many overweight, obese and morbidly obese people in this country it is simply mind-numbing. Frustrating, disgusting, scary, sad really. I am especially worried about the amount of these people being children. There are many stats that indicate a lot of parents today will outlive their children - and it's the parents' faults! C'mon people - wake up! The incidence of obese people having obese children vs. healthy people have obese children is like 80% higher (and you know it's the same with pets, right? fat pet-owners, fat pets).

This: http://www.naafaonline.com/dev2/ website is one of the most offensive, idiotic, backwards sites/organizations that I have ever known the existance of! It's the "National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance" - not kidding! Holy crap. If you read some of this site - you'll freak out (if you're normal - sorry!) - I mean - Oh My God!

Should we have fat acceptance or something like: the "Coliation to Advance Health and Wellness"? C'mon.

I am also really concerned with the large amounts of self-esteem young (especially girls) people and teenagers have when they're overweight. Now - don't freak out - everyone deserves to have positive self-esteem but - it's got to be for the right reasons, shining through in the right areas and it must be balanced.

I see so many heavy girls wearing clothers their counterparts (with bodies to fit the attire) wear because they too want to look cute, hot - whatever. Well - those clothes shouldn't be made for them - and often it appears they're not. These girls are popping out all over the place - and it's not that they're breasts are growing fast - it's that their thieghs and buts and guts are busting out and it's terrible. Big girls should feel good about themselves for being: smart, funny, kind, compassionate but should NOT carry that over into wearing clothes they really shouldn't. I see people laughing, pointing at these girls - I know I look at them crooked too...and that will ultimately end up in bad feelings - and frankly they should kind of feel bad - or at least feel like it can be better and they should be striving for that.

I know there's an impossible balance - too thin (stick-skinny little hollywood girls) - too heavy and well: healthy.

It should be everyone's mission in life to get and be healthy and to take their health and help empower others to get healthy.

This epidemic is going to slaughter this country within the next couple of decades (really - I've done the research in school - I have a bachelor's in science: health sciences): financially and otherwise - let's minimize the slaughter (c'mon - I'm against it on all levels!).

Off the Cuff

Movies
I love 'em! Really

Clockwork Orange
Clost Land
The Wall
Fargo
Juno
a few others I can't remember right now...
add to it a movie I just watched tonight:
Snow Angels

Good flick.

I truly appreciate anything that makes you think "outside the box"...

Desiderata

Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind youto what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.

Especially do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.

But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.

Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be.

And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy.

Why and Why Not?

Why do people continue to eat meat: considering the devastating effects this has on the human body, the horrid effects (lives of torture and deaths often worse) on animals and the astonishingly horrific effects on the environment - why eat meat? It's clear and very proven the human body does not need any form of meat to survive (hello? I'm living proof!).

Why doesn't everyone recycle? C'mon folks - this is one of the easiest steps to take in being slightly responsible toward the environment! You're bagging and boxing garbage to take to the curb anyway - why not recycle? I know I'm a freak about recycling: I recycle for my 14 unit apt bldg, take all boxes, cardboards and recyclables from my sister that her city doesn't take, recycle at my office and another company on my floor often leaves their boxes, bubble wrap, peanuts etc. for me to recycle. So what?! I do it big time - why can't eveyone just do it for their own houses?

Why not eat organic? Considering it's been scientifically proven eating organic yields a softer effect on the environment and produces more healthful food - why doesn't everyone eat organic as much as possible? Sure - it can be more expensive but if you round out your diet (i.e. lose the meat) and fill it with more beneficial products/recipes etc. - you'll end up spending less! That and: HELLO??!! pesticides kill! You can't wash them all away - they're IN the foods you eat - not just on them!

Why do people continue to eat crap food? Lean Cusine, Campbell's, Burger King, Ragu, McDonald's, Heinz, Wendy's, Kraft - and on and on and on: all crap food! I will never understand how people continue to eat foods with colorings, preservatives, artificial flavorings and things they can't pronounce more or less identify. It's not hard people! Read labels (and don't be fooled by main-stream companies going organic. A lot of these companies are on the bandwagon to lower organic standards and are just in it for the buck - they're not dedicated to you or the environment...)!

Why doesn't everyone vote? Especially women? Ever hear of the Suffragettes? This didn't happen too long ago! We're obligated to be involved - to vote! I mean - come on! Most of us don't enlist, wrangle our way out of jury duty etc. - why not vote? Politics isn't the most exciting thing to happen nowadays but it is VITAL people know and appreciate what is (and potentially will be) going on. This is your life too! To all those who think one vote doesn't count: ask Al Gore!

OK - that's my mini rant for right now.
Trust me - there will be more later!

Cooking Tofu

For those who have asked:

Drain tofu;
take cube out of package - wrap in papertowels (plain white - no prints!)
place on cutting board or cookie sheet
place cutting board or cookie sheet on top of cube as well
add weight to top - canned goods do well
cube should bulge but not be breaking (about 4 normal sized cans will do)
leave like this for about 20 minutes (papertowels should be soaking wet when you take this all apart)

Slice tofu
place cube on its' side
slice into 4 evenly thin squares (hint: use a non-serrated knife)
Cut into 32 pieces (if you start on a diaganol this is easy; diaganol once and again then split 'em [you'll have little pie shaped pieces])

Bake tofu
at 400 for 45min to 1 hour
watch it!
at about 35-40 minutes test it - if it still gives; you're good
excellant a little crispy too! like tofu chips!

Marinate tofu
with whatever you like

I have no specific measurements but i've done (and love)

bar-b-que sauce
mrs braggs (or soy/tamari sauce)
red wine vinegar
agave nectar (i used medium)
hot sauce
**use you own favorite brands/flavors***
added sauteed onions and garlic

OR

white wine vinegar
agave nectar (i used light in this one)
mrs braggs (or again: soy/tamari sauce)
lemon juice
garlic (this time minced from a jar)
hot sauce

**(marinate for 20 minutes or two hours)

delicious!

Quote on Laziness...

"Laziness grows on people; it begins in cobwebs and ends in iron chains.
The more one has to do the more he is able to accomplish."

Thomas Buxton
1786-1845
Social Activist

Optimal?

Seriously...can we ever get an optimal candidate for President?
I am so sick and tired of picking between the 'lesser of two evils'.
I mean...c'mon already...

Maybe we should extinguish all the political parties, have PTA moms take over (in large part) - duke out differences with other nations by pitting their toughest against our own (and sparing all the innocents), get rid of Medicare and Medicaid and create a universal healthcare plan (which isn't mind-numbing to comprehend) and penalize politicians for flapping their gums about promises, reliefs and re-gaining the American dream.

I'd also make the politicans parties responsible for picking up all the signs they stick up everywhere... I mean - isn't it the very least they can do?

I've been tagged...

So I guess I was "tagged".
I can't follow all the rules because I only know one other blogger but here's what I can do:

I've been tagged
I've officially been 'tagged' by Kim at http://monacodesigns.blogspot.com/
Here are the rules:
1. Link to the person who tagged you
2. Post the rules on your blog (this is what you are now reading)
3. Write 6 random things about yourself (see below)
4. Tag 6 people at the end of your post and link to them (This is only a game)
5. Let each person know they have been tagged and leave a comment on their blog
6. Let the tagger know when your entry is up

Six Random Things About Me:
1. I love, love, love spicy food. If it can bring tears to my eyes just smelling it I'm a happy person!

2. I taught "special" students how to read when I was in high school. I got in trouble in study hall and was assigned to the office. I was in AP English and they needed help with this special needs class. I won an award for it - was in the paper and everything. Best thing: I loved it!

3. I love all kinds of food except: "American" (hot dogs, burgers, pizza etc.) and Italian

4. I can't wait to have a house! I want a yard bigger than the house: for gardening, running, dogs!

5. I will probably only ever own Hondas (or Acuras if I ever have that kind of cash) - I'm extremely brand loyal!

6. When I was little I wanted to be a teacher during the week and a rockstar on the weekends (swear to god - you can ask anyone in my family!)

What we learn...

As children - how does it effect the rest of your life?
What do you really take with you?

Seems I'm consistently reminded of things I learned growing up - things stick...

We always had pets growing up. Having pets I think is an essential piece to growing up loving and kind. I know that sometimes kids can't have pets - they're allergic, their families can't afford them (my dad always said 'thank god the animals never got sick' because there's no way we could have afforded to pay for their care should that have happened), they live in places they can't have them (apartments, doubles etc.) but every kid needs exposure to them - and not just at the zoo! Having animals in my life (then and know) reminds me that kindness and caring is a vital part to being human.

I remember a time growing up (and we certainly were not well-off. My parents struggled and struggled and struggled to make ends meet and they rarely did. We went without quite a bit but never without the basics and never without family...) when I was at Drug Mart in Lakewood with my dad. We needed toilet paper, soap - maybe something else. My dad also wanted cigars - you know; those real cheap, crappy cigars: Garcia y Vega cigars (so bad). We were in line in the front of the store. There was a woman there with her child and she couldn't pay for her prescriptions; she was crying. I don't think my dad blinked an eye - he paid for them. With what money, I do not know. She wanted to pay him back - get our address - something. He wouldn't have it. I don't remember the conversation but I do remember us leaving without his cigars (these were really his only vice...). I've since then always been inclined to give. Sometimes I give money, sometimes I give stuff, sometimes I give time and energy but: I always try and give.

I remember not always having enough money and my dad cooking with that struggle. He came up with some of the best stuff - just throwing things together in a pot - because that's what we had and it had to work. I'm still inclined to do that - throw stuff into a pot or a pan and cross my fingers. Some of the best dishes, marinades, soups etc. have come from this very process! Things to note: brown rice makes almost any dish filling, add some; not too much - you can always add - you can't take out! Work with what you have (you know you're only buying things you like anyway - try something!) and do what you know.

Lakewood started recycling way back when and I can remember my parents jumping right on that train. Their idea is the same you'll hear me say over and over: you're bagging things and taking them to the curb anyway - why not recycle? I remember using old paint and concrete buckets to collect recycling. I am still a huge advocate for recycling. I recycle for my office, at my apartment building (all the junk mail, I have a box in the laundry room and one outside my door for paper recyclables and I recycle all the laundry containers), where I go to volunteer and I collect paper goods and recyclabes #3-7 from my sister whose city does not yet take paper goods or recyclables outside #1 and #2. I've also learned and seen the easy effects of teaching by doing and of people learning by example. Anyone who drives by my building now on a Sunday night would be floored by the piles of recyclables on the lawn for collection. Several tenants have told me they never knew how easy it was until I told them (I passed out notes about how and what to recycle to all our tenants and give the same notes/memos to every new tenant that moves in).

I learned that you pay your taxes (no matter how much it chaps your ass!), you protect your credit, pay your bills, give back, be responsible for yourself and as much as is possible for those around you who need you. I learned that no matter how bad I think it is: it isn't. Someone else (and they could be right next door) is having a harder time than you. I learned that good health is one of the most precious commodities and that we should cherish it and do all things possible to keep it. I learned that money is not by any means - all there is to it (although I have my mega millions tickets for tonights drawing!). You protect your family even if they make you crazy.

I learned that some tastes never change. I am all about being vegetarian/vegan. I eat products without additives, colorings, preservatives but man-o-man there's nothing like original Open Pit Barb-B-Que sauce (it's still my older sisters favorite too!)!

So - things stick.
This is already a pretty long post but I could continue.
Just a reminder about who you are and why.
A reminder that kids are like sponges - whether you're a parent or not, an aunt, an uncle, a teacher or a neighbor; kids are watching and listening and learning: why not strive to be a really good example? It'll serve you and those around you very well.

Quote

To go along with some of my ideas...

Sharing what you have is more important than what you have.
Albert M Wells Jr

How's Life?

I mean really, how's life?
Having a good day? a bad day?
Things on the upswing or down?
Feeling happy, joyous, glad?
What about frustrated, sad, angry?

We all go through these ups and downs: it's the way of life.
Without the down swing how can we truly appreciate the upswing?
So many cliches I could quote.

Most of you know that I have long done various types of volunteer work; that in some way my life simply doesn't make sense unless I'm giving back. I; like most of you certainly do not have an excess of cash to throw around but - busy as I am I can always (as could most of you if you thought about it) find time to volunteer and it makes me more whole.

Well - I am volunteering with a new group that does hot meals at a church every third Saturday in Lakewood. Today was our second meal but the first time I could make it (even for just a few hrs where I really just greeted, cleared tables, dried dishes [and took home all the cardboard recycling - would you expect anything less? ha!]).

Our group served just over 50 people today (and was able to give take home meals to everyone who wanted something and donate certain leftovers to another church that does hot meals). The church had acquired donations of toothbrushes, bar soap and body wash that we were lucky enough to be able to hand out today as well.

You really get 'put in your place' (does that sound bad? what I mean I guess is - you really get a more true perspective) about your own woes, hardships and 'bad days' when you see people wholly thankful for a hot meal and basic hygiene supplies.

While clearing tables I overheard a couple talking about their friend (and they were there with their three children) who is living in a storage unit and how she felt so bad and wanted so much to be able to help him. She's there out of need and for even just part of the time she's receiving help for herself and her family she's wishing she too could help another. I've seen a friend of mines' mom at both meals (first meal I just stopped by to drop stuff off), today I saw a guy I went to high school with: as patrons to the meal. Several of the meals' patrons helped clear tables and collect salt/pepper shakers etc.- to help us. All were very grateful and said so; made sure they did.

So - do I think because I can pay my bills and go to the salon and buy clothes once in a while and grab a bite and a beer with friends when time permits - that I am not allowed to have a 'bad day'? No - perception is reality and woes tend to be comparable to lifestyle etc. We're not wrong to have bad days - what we need to remember is to be grateful, that realistically they're just probably not that bad.

And really it's all about perspective. About getting it, keeping it and keeping ourselves in check.

I hope that everyone takes a quick snapshot of their own life and realizes that they have time or money or talent or goods to give. Once a week, twice a month - once a month. There are plenty of people and organizations that need you. Figure out your passion (animals, visiting with the elderly, homeless etc.) - hunt down a group that needs you and do something! If you can read - teach it! Play a sport? Find an organization that caters to kids and coach, give blood; do something and teach giving to your kids and grandkids!

Remember too that giving is never selfless (really - think about a time you gave where you didn't feel at least kind of good!). I guarantee you you'll walk away feeling glad you were there and feeling (while probably a little like your heart is being ripped out because you can't just fix it all...) a little bit better about your own life and circumstance.

Just a thought...

Once Upon a Time Toys: Rocky River, OH (don't shop)

I wrote and sent this letter to this quite elite, pretentious store in Rocky River, OH. Rocky River, OH is a very wealthy community in NE Ohio and this store caters to the more elite shopper. They carry quality products. Read the letter then DON'T SHOP THERE - go to :

Name: Thinker ToysStreet: 3887 Medina RoadAkron, oh 44333-2449Phone: (330) 665-3860

There's one in Parma, OH too. Have shopped many times: always pleased with their customer service and products.

Also try:
http://www.playmatterstoys.com/Scripts/default.asp
I've had similar, good experiences here too.


Owners/Management
Once Upon a Time Toys
19285 Detroit Rd
Rocky River OH 44116

August 10, 2008

Well I had quite an experience at your store today.

I had been in your store Friday August 8, 2008 and had a delightful experience. I hadn’t been in your store in years and really only once or twice before. Your sales girl was wonderful – funny, helpful. I purchased a doll and two small ‘Smurf’ figurines which your sales girl and I laughed about (unfortunately I do not remember her name).

After a little thought I decided against the $35 doll for my 1 year old niece: what if she didn’t like it? She has two older brothers and this is her first baby doll. I was at another store Saturday and found a similar doll for $10. Seemed a better price to pay considering: 1) she may not like it at all and 2) it’ll probably be dragged all over the place. Both dolls were from good makers.

Sunday August, 10 2008 I return to your store to return the doll. There is a very pregnant girl who greets me warmly when I come in. We seem to be moving right along until she can’t get the credit card machine to credit the $37.70 for the doll. She goes in the back to ask for help. She comes back and tries again: to no avail. I find a few notepads and a card while I wait.

“Annie” comes out and tries too – again: nothing. They call a manager (Renee? [and it took a few moments to find her number]) as the machine is asking for a password to “credit” my card. I have worked with credit card machines in several business arenas for many years and think this is odd (both of your employees say similar things). Annie is following direction from the manager and attempting to credit my card $37.70 and ends up charging my card for $37.70. She has a short discussion on the phone (meantime I have been very patiently waiting – chatting with your very pregnant (and she told me very new employee. She also told me Annie only works one day/week – so two not-so-experienced people working a shift together…) employee – even gave her some coupons I had received from shopping at Toy ‘R Us. I have been nice, patient (very) this whole time.

Annie gets off the phone and tells me she’ll have to take my card information and have the manager run the credit after she gets in Tuesday. I told her she’ll have to call the manager back because I’m not leaving without either a credit to my card or cash (which both employees say they can’t do – it has to be refunded on the card: fine; I get that but it is not my fault your machine isn’t working properly and neither of these employees seems to recognize that. They keep telling me it’s not their fault. I mirror that and say I recognize it’s not your fault, that it’s the machines’ but it’s the stores’ machine so…) and I was even nice (firm but nice) about this. I tell Annie ‘I’m not leaving my credit card information (which is linked directly to my checking account) at some random store.” She says “We’re not some random store; we’ve been here in business for “X” (I forget how many) years.” I tried to tell her that you’re (the store) random to me. She is getting very, very agitated.

Annie calls said manager back and tells her that I am not comfortable leaving my card information for credit later. Annie offers to let me talk to the manager and I tell her ‘It’s not going to change my mind’. Annie is discussing whether she has enough cash in the drawer to cover the refund (which is now double the original amount so: $75.40) and confirms to the manager she does. She hung up and it’s instant poor attitude and customer service to me. She tells me this is going to be an “accounting nightmare for the manager” and frankly, I balance well over a million dollars every month for clients and do the accounts receivable/payable and payroll for the company I manage. I know this is no more than a simple journal entry (I even tell Annie: “That’s why they get paid the big bucks – it’s actually not that big of a deal”). She gives me the cash and makes a snide remark: “Well, there goes all my money for the drawer” (again – not my problem. I’m a customer who came in for a routine return – none of this is my fault).

I go on to tell Annie (who by now is so mad – red in the face mad) that it’s not that big of a deal – it all comes out in the wash. She says to me (in a very huffy, hot under the collar way) “Oh and you know everything there is to know about credit cards machines?” Now I’m getting mad and I tell her – “I’ve been very nice about this whole situation, I haven’t raised my voice, and now you’re going to give me attitude? This isn’t my fault”. There’s a little more back and forth about her poor customer service skills in this situation (I mean – is she kidding? This was not my fault – fault of the machine = fault of the company. Companies have to be responsible for their equipment). She is unreal and I tell her so (please keep in mind I never once raised my voice and you know there are plenty of customers out there who would have handled this much differently).

She gives me the cash, writes it out on a receipt, haves me sign that, sign the sales receipt from today and write my name, address and phone number on a piece of paper which I do (all the while with her complaining about this, that or the other thing [I have never had any retail experience like this: it was like I was in the Twilight Zone]). Before Annie gives me the cash the pregnant girl tries to see if they can void the last transaction on the credit card machine: that asks for a password too.

She (Annie) won’t let it go (I mean honestly – she’s a grown woman and I have been very accommodating in this situation which when all is said in done takes nearly 30 minutes) I tell her again: “I think I’ve been very nice about this – I haven’t raised my voice, I’ve been very patient – considering I’ve been in here 20 – 30 minutes now (which she tried to argue with me – I was in the store for about 25 minutes before I got out of there) just because the machine didn’t work and I didn’t do what you want does not make any of this my fault”. Now she wants my original sales receipt from Friday. I said sure – as long as I can get a copy. She tells me you have no copy machine and I said well – you cannot have my original receipt, you have all the information you need from these receipts (and I point out the item numbers etc.) she says “Well are you going to return the Smurfette or…” I cut her off and say no but I keep all of my receipts until they clear on my bank statement every month. The pregnant girl chimes in that they need the bar code on the original receipt. I told her the manager could call me if she did (which she shouldn’t need to do) – Annie literally slammed the receipt down in front and me and said “FINE!” and stormed off to the back room where she was when I came in.

I even stayed to purchase the additional items I had found while waiting and now even the pregnant girl is a little snotty. I mean – don’t your employees know the “the customer is always right” phrase? Come on – this was unbelievable! I told her (pregnant girl) that I know it’s frustrating but that it’s all resolvable – she tells me “yeah but we had to do something we’re not supposed to (refunding a credit card [now 2] transaction with cash)” and I told her “yeah but you had a manager on the phone – had her permission and that’s no reason for her (Annie) to get an attitude with me” – she completes the transaction (which I of course paid cash for) and hands me the bag and receipt.

I received no apology for my inconvenience, no thanks for my patience throughout this whole thing. She literally said nothing.

I will never, ever shop your store again. I will be posting this letter (exactly as it is here) on my blog for the entire world to see. I will tell anyone and everyone I know about this (I may even keep a few copies of this letter on me so I can hand it out to people) and I know a lot of people.

The lack of understanding, appreciation for my patience and overall kindness considering the poor – no; total lack of appropriate customer service here was astonishing.

I hope I reach enough people to hit you where it hurts: in the pocket book. Maybe this will prompt you to get more efficiently trained, customer service oriented employees.

This was hands down the most unreal, inappropriate behavior I have EVER – and I mean: ever, ever, ever experienced (and I shop a lot).

Leah M K

What We Learn From Dogs

***this was an email that I received; you know - sent 'round and 'round... thought it worthy of a post!***

Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his wife, Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very attached to Belker, and they were hoping for a miracle. I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the family we couldn't do anything for Belker, and offered to perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it would be good for six-year-old Shane to observe the procedure. They felt as though Shane might learn something from the experience. The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was going on.
W ithin a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away.The little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any difficulty or confusion. We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than human lives. Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why." Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.
He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life -- like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?" The six-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long."
Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.Speak kindly.
Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:
When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
Take naps.
Stretch before rising.
Run, romp, and play daily.
Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
On warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
When you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
Delight in the simple joy of a long walk (or run).
Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
Be loyal.
Never pretend to be something you're not.
If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
Be always grateful for each new day.
ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF EVERY DAY!

Longevity!

Great link my friend Lisa sent me!
I don't know what's better: the pictures/pictioral updates or the info!
Ha!
Worth a shot (about 1-2 minutes):

http://www.nmfn.com/tn/learnctr--lifeevents--longevity

Emergency Preparedness: Links

In addition to the general American Red Cross website (www.redcross.org); another ARC website with easy to find preparedness information is: http://www.prepare.org/

From my friend at the Red Cross...

Emergency Preparedness

Really?
Yup.

A friend of mine works in emergency preparedness for the American Red Cross here in NE Ohio. We were out to dinner last night and somehow we started talking about being prepared.

Things I never thought about (and not scare tactics but really important things to think about) and that too many of us don't think about and should:

If there is an emergency and your child's school needs to be evacuated - where do they take the kids?

Do you have a home evacuation plan in case of a fire?
No? YOU MUST!
Key thing is: practice it - especially with young children.
Have bedrooms upstairs? How are you getting out?
You need rope ladders (or something of the like) - practice with them.
Need not be scary for kids but must be serious.

If there is an emergency and you need to leave your home and your spouse is at work etc. (consider like 9/11 - phones: jammed) where do you meet? Make a plan.

What if there is something that hits us like a pandemic flu (seen the commercials they're running on t.v. recently?)
Always a good idea to have a stock pile of food/supplies.
Think about foods you don't need to cook (because potentially you can't): canned goods, boxed goods - WATER. The rule is: one gallon per person per day. Have babies? You need more for formula etc. Remember that water "expires" (due to their plastic containers) so make sure to use and re-stock.

I know no one really wants to think about these things but I suppose we must.
Just to put it out there. Seems we all get jazzed about these things after a tragedy: when we all skate through scott-free. Let's please be sure we're all appropriately prepared so we can continue the "scott-free".

A Good Message, A Sad Loss

Most of you have heard that Randy Pausch died Fri 07/25/08 - famous for "the last lecture".
A poignant speech, a moving gesture, a series of thought-provoking insight, peace and just the right amount of determination.

In case you need a reminder:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo
worthy of a watch, a thought, a reflection.

Think how better the world would be if we all chose to adopt a few of his ideas, his views on the world, on life.

Here's to being a Tigger!

What Right?

Random thoughts:

What right do I have to:
get frustrated?
feel sad?
want?
be pissed?
etc.

when

there is:
genocide
clear-cutting of rain forests
starvation (and people: it's right around the corner)
senseless murder (is there any other kind?)
people who don't recycle
people who don't pay attention to who they give their money to (money is power - shop responsibly!)
pollution
people who drive SUVs (and they don't have kids, work equipment, large dogs, band equipment etc. - i.e. the need to drive one) - just to drive themselves around
the push for off-shore drilling: HELLO???!!! this doesn't promote the advancement of clean energy: research, utilization, promotion etc. (keep in mind - any new drilling for oil will take years to produce results. in years - we better have a better answer!)
an endangered animal list
people who eat meat (ha!)
bankruptcy, foreclosure, medical bills, lack of medical insurance, lack of job security, jobs moved out of the states (and the: is this a necessary evil question? i mean if all the jobs stayed here and we had to pay American wages [and benefits] could Americans continue to afford the services/products? - don't hate me - i'm just thinking out loud)
hunting for sport
things like: pedophilia, kidnapping, abuse
bad parents
bad pet owners
neglect/abuse of the elderly
identify theft
homelessness
tornadoes
floods
hurricanes
forest fires
home invasions

the list goes on and on and frankly i'm already depressed by what i've written!
you all know what i mean - it's all about perspective!

c'mon...
i have a good job with good benefits
a great family
great friends
***i am not by any means: alone
i can pay my rent, pay my bills and buy clothes (within reason) when i need them
i can afford to go out to dinner sometimes
i have a car, an education (both of which i'm still paying for: key thing is: i can pay for them)
i have a roof over my head, food in the 'fridge
i can read, write, vote, work, volunteer: not everyone can say that
i can visit a doctor, get new eyeglasses, see a physical therapist, maintain my gym membership and go to Pilates every week
***i am not - by any means: strapped

sometimes i need to put it all into perspective
it's corny but it really isn't about what you want, what you don't have - it's truly more about what you do have and most importantly - what you have to give

Top 10 Healthy Foods

Top 10 Healthy Foods - Why They Are Good For You
Main Category: Nutrition / Diet NewsArticle Date: 12 Aug 2006 - 23:00
If you could eat foods that were tasty, nutritious and helped reduce your risk of disease, what more could you want?
The August issue of Mayo Clinic Women's HealthSource offers its 10 top picks for healthy foods:

Apples: Apples are a good source of pectin, a fiber that can lower cholesterol and glucose levels. They're also a good source of vitamin C -- an antioxidant that protects your body's cells. Vitamin C also keeps your blood vessels healthy and aids in the absorption of iron and folate.

Almonds: These nuts are packed with nutrients -- fiber, riboflavin, magnesium, iron, calcium and vitamin E, a natural antioxidant. They're also good for your heart. Most of the fat in almonds is monounsaturated fat, which can help lower cholesterol levels when substituted for other fats. Most almonds are considered low sodium, with less than 140 milligrams of sodium an ounce.

Broccoli: Besides providing calcium, potassium, folate and fiber, broccoli contains phytonutrients -- compounds that may help prevent diabetes, heart disease and some cancers. Broccoli contains the antioxidant beta-carotene and is also an excellent source of vitamin C.

Blueberries: They are a rich, low-calorie source of fiber, antioxidants and phytonutrients. Regular intake of blueberries may improve short-term memory and reduce the cellular damage associated with aging.

Red beans: Small red, pinto and dark red kidney varieties -- are an excellent low-fat source of antioxidants, protein, dietary fiber and copper. They're also a good source of iron, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium and thiamin.

Salmon: This fish is an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids, which are believed to provide heart benefits. Salmon is also low in saturated fat and cholesterol and is a good source of protein. If possible, choose wild salmon, which is less likely to contain unwanted chemicals such as mercury.

Spinach: It's high in vitamin A, and also is a good source of calcium, folate, iron, magnesium, riboflavin and vitamins B-6 and C. The plant compounds in spinach may boost your immune system and help prevent certain types of cancer.

Sweet potatoes: The deep orange-yellow color of sweet potatoes tells you that they're high in beta-carotene. Sweet potatoes are also high in vitamin C and a good source of fiber, vitamin B-6 and potassium. And, they're fat-free and relatively low in calories.

Vegetable juice: This beverage is an easy way to include vegetables in your diet since it contains most of the same vitamins, minerals and other nutrients. Tomato juice, and vegetable juices which include tomatoes, are good sources of lycopene, an antioxidant that may reduce the risk of heart attack and certain types of cancer. Be sure to select the low-sodium varieties.

Wheat germ: The germ at the center of the wheat seed is a concentrated source of nutrients. Two tablespoons provide a good source of thiamin, folate, magnesium, phosphorus, iron and zinc. Sprinkle over cereals, yogurt and salads. Or use it in muffins, cookies and pancakes.

Mayo Clinichttp://www.mayo.edu/news

Organic Labeling: F.Y.I.

Except with fish, salt, and water - which can't be organic:
·A "100% organic" label means the product is entirely organic.
·An "organic" label means the product ingredients are at least 95% organic.
·A "made with/contains organic ingredients" means the ingredients are at least 70% organic.
·An "all natural" claim means zilch. (Yup, you read that right.)
·Organic Consumers Association - it's campaigning to keep organic standards high.

Things To Do

Here's an email I sent out 06/19/07.
I kept it because I thought I said some good stuff.
This is one of many emails that have prompted people to urge me to start a blog:

there's this absurd belief out there - someone actually said it to me recently - that 'one person can't make a difference'...
it brings to mind people like Martin Luther King Jr, Mother Teresa, Ghandi, Beethoven etc.
one person can make a difference
and one person plus another, plus another no longer equals 'one person'...

that being said, thought i'd pass along some things everyone can do - something that everyone can do - to help themselves, their wallets and: tada! the environment, little things...

change to florescent bulbs! serious savings - they last forever (less inconvenience to go out and buy them) - side note: there is mercury in these bulbs - if you break one it is recommended that you clean it up with a wet paper towel

take the stairs instead of the elevator whenever possible. not only are you doing yourself some good but you're not wasting electricity to carry you up and down, up and down

fill your gas tanks at night (at least after the sun sets) ok - this will probably not save you any money but more gasoline evaporates in the heat of the day and crap - it's cooler outside at night!

use cloth bags when you shop - re-use paper and/or plastic. even if you just re-use them one time - it could cut your plastic bag consumption in half in a given year! cloth is best - i use several (sometimes i need the paper and/or plastic [recycling, changing the catbox]) and totally worth it to buy one of those cooler bags - love mine. then you won't have 1/2 as many plastic bags to deal with or throw out either! side note - i can always use them, animal shelters take them; you can give them to me!! [paper or plastic]
side note: check your citys website for what to do/how to do it...
p.s. those of you in Cleveland - Cleveland does recycle, they just don't do curbside pick-up. every citizen of Cleveland lives within 1.5miles of a recycling drop off though...

remember to turn lights off when you leave the room. little things add up too: turn off your calculators, your desklamps etc.

speaking of little things - all those electronics with displays that stay on all the time - adds up! i unplug my surge protectors, microwave, alarm clocks. plug your surge protectors back in when you get home from work the next day. tada!!

one we've heard forever: turn off the water when you brush your teeth! i forgot the amount per person per year/brushing of gallons this saves but: adds up!

lastly: recycle, recycle, recycle!!
it is not difficult - you're putting things into bags and bins anyway why not sort it out - it's all going to the lawn regardless. hey - i recycle for a 14 unit apt bldg and my office. my sister has 2 kids (that go and go and go) and she recycles and saves all her cardboard and paperboard for either me or her mother-in-law because her city doesn't take it yet. it's a minor inconvenience and we all have a responsibility... (that whole: 'you can't go through life with two catcher mitts on; you've got to be able to throw something back...' idea)

soo...
that's it for now. i was just sitting and thinking; pondering it all and thought i'd share some of the things that i do that maybe some of you can do. if you all did one or two - even just sometimes then even those of you with the false idea that one person can't make a difference - well, you wouldn't be one person after all. i think it's more about one person can make a difference, that it all starts with one person...

thanks for your time
Leah

Starting Up?

I've had several people suggest to me I should start a blog.
After some consideration: tada!

I have no idea where this is headed or if I'll even keep this.
Thought if I at least started the blog I might be more inclined to actually do something with it.

It's Sunday 11:56am/July 27: we'll see.